People often turn to parenting because those around them keep pushing for it. You hear
comments like that all the time. You are married now. It is time for a baby.
Parenting really has nothing to do with sticking to someone else’s schedule. It turns out messy
and full of surprises. It stays deeply personal in ways you might not expect. You end up figuring
out how to act like your child’s friend. This holds true even on those tough days when your
patience runs completely out.
You are not dealing with a toy or a pet here. It is not some kind of robot either. You raise an
actual human being. That person will laugh and cry. They argue sometimes and make choices that catch you off guard. Those choices can frustrate you or even scare you a bit.
Parenting goes way beyond just feeding them or keeping them safe. It involves shaping their mind and
helping their heart grow strong. Honestly that turns into no easy thing at all.
Being just a Provider to your child, Instead of a Parent
Nowadays, many parents just act as a provider to their children. But the true goal of parenting is to be child’s most closest best friend in the world.
If your children sees you only as a provider, the result of your parenting life won’t be good. You and your children both will suffer if you are just a provider.
That’s why don’t be a parent just because of societal or religious pressure. Be a parent when you truly want to be your child’s best friend. Many people become parents because they think it will be a sin according to religion, if they don’t take children. But let me ask you, ” Won’t be a sin if you don’t treat your children well?” Also why take such a huge responsibility just because of societal pressure, if it doesn’t make you happy.
Being just a provider, being just someone who gives food and shelter, being just someone who teaches their children are not enough. You have to be their most closest best friend in the world who is also a safe spot for them. So, ask yourself many times before taking decision, ” Am I ready to be a human child’s best friend? Is this truly what I want? ”
Parenting Challenges: A Lifelong Learning Curve
To be a parent, you have to face parenting challenges. You should think hard about becoming a parent first. Ask yourself some real questions before jumping in.
You need to understand the world your child will face as they grow. You should know what kids
these days enjoy or worry about. Find out what they struggle with too. You have to be ready to
learn new things right along with them. Sometimes that means letting go of old ideas you held
onto.
Each generation ends up so different from the last. I remember trying to lay down rules for my
niece once. I treated her like she lived in the 90s back then. It did not take long to see how
pointless some of those rules felt now. Teachers usually connect with children better than
parents might. They do this by studying trends and changing their approach all the time.
Parenting ought to work in a similar way. It becomes this ongoing trip full of tries and mistakes.
You grow from it step by step.
Parenting Tips
If you are a parent, here are some parenting tips which can help you.
Handling Disappointment as a Parent
Parents always hold big dreams for their children. They want good grades and solid manners. A
bright future seems like the goal too. Still the tough reality hits eventually. Your child will let you
down at some point. That happens to just about everyone.
They might pick a road in life that confuses you completely. Or they fall short of what you hoped
for them. That is exactly when your real efforts kick in. You keep loving them no matter what
comes up.
You do not count as a failure just because your child trips along the way. The real failure shows
up if they feel too scared to share the truth with you ever.
According to Psychology Today, Children benefit most when parents are their supportive friends.
How to Be a Parent and a Friend
Families that last do not rely on fear to hold them together. They build on something closer to
friendship instead.
Your child should not view you only as the one who hands out food or money. They might see
you as just providing a place to stay. You would miss out on the biggest part then. That part
means being their safe spot in tough times.
Step into their world when you get the chance. Your son might spend hours on PUBG Mobile.
Sit down and play a couple rounds with him. Do not worry if you lose badly every time. Your
daughter could go on about her favorite movie nonstop. Watch it together even if it does not
appeal to you much.
Those small times matter a lot. Think movie nights or grabbing ice cream. Silly games count too.
They let your child feel noticed and cared for. They sense that you get them. Love comes
through clear in those moments. A child who talks freely with parents builds trust over time.
They open up about secrets and fears. Mistakes come out too. That kind of openness beats
everything else as the best part of parenting.
Why It Feels Impossible Sometimes
Parenting offers no salary or days off. You get no real break like a retirement down the line.
Certain nights drag on with no sleep at all. They feel like they will never end. Other days wear
you down in unexpected ways.
The job stays hard because it calls for patience every day. You need understanding too.
Constant growth keeps coming at you. Still it holds beauty in showing what real unconditional
love means.
Life lets you mess up in many areas and start over fresh. Parenting does not hand you that
same easy reset. Not quite in the usual sense anyway. That makes it the toughest role you take
on. It also turns into the most worthwhile one you will ever know.
Real Stress Parents Carry Every Day
Parenting is not all about love, but it’s also about emotional and mental stresses, and only a few people talk about that. Experts note that the pressure to manage routines, one’s own emotions, and continuous problem-solving often leaves parents mentally drained.
Indeed, according to the U.S. Surgeon General, parents continually report very high levels of stress associated with sleep deprivation, financial concerns and the burden of caregiving.
According to research done by ParentingScience.com, such stress arises from a combination of self-doubt, an overwhelming sense of expectations and the emotional load of caring for a child. This proves that parenting is a full-time emotional and physical job, with no easy breaks.
Final Thoughts on Parenting
Parenting centers on making real connections with your child. It involves learning new things
side by side. You forgive when needed and laugh through the good parts. Sometimes you cry
together over the rough spots.
Imagine one day your child looks at you and says it out loud. My parents count as my best
friends. That moment tells you everything. You made it through the worlds toughest job just fine.
Do not step into parenting because society pressures you that way. Choose it when you feel
prepared for real. You stay ready to listen close. You commit to growing yourself. Embrace the
wild and wonderful mess of raising another person.
又到年底了,真快!
So true! A year goes by in the blink of an eye, especially when you’re navigating the parenting journey. Thanks for the thought!